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Kids & TV: You Name It, He Watched It!

I’m a TV addict. And I let my 2 year-old son “Bintang” to watch TV for almost 12 hours a day. From Barney & Friends, to Thomas The Tank Engine, Pingu, Ava-Riko-Teo, Mr. Maker, Boogie Beebies, Teletubbies, In The Night Garden, and everything else, you name it, he watched it. Since he was born, we live in a small house and put the TV in our bedroom. We were pretty much attached to it, so badly, that we -almost- always fell asleep every night with the TV still on.

..and the TV watches us sleeping..

But last January, my husband and I were finally able to buy our own house, and while moving in, we have made a tough decision to no longer put the television in our bedroom, and moved it to the living room instead. We made a deal that, if, we can’t survive with this condition, we will move the TV back to our bedroom. To make the transition even harder, we also began sleeping separately from Bintang, whose bedroom is right next to ours, with a connecting door, in case he needs to sneak-out at night.

It wasn’t a major change but I was terrified and thought, “this is not going to be easy..

It wasn’t easy indeed.

For me.

As for Bintang, he instantly fell in love with something else:


The first night I took Bintang to sleep on his own room, I was confused as hell. How the hell am I going to make him feel sleepy, since there is no TV around?

I guess, there’s always the first time for everything. Suddenly I find myself trying to imitate what other parents (and what all the articles about bedtime story say I must) do: read him a book.

And there he was.. Loving each and every moment of it. A lot!He laughed every time I imitate funny voices from the book’s character. He pointed his fingers to every interesting pictures available on the book, asking me what it was and why do the characters show certain facial expression. Is he sad? Is he mad? Why are they laughing, why is he crying?

I read to him, a story about how a little boy bravely go to the dentist. About a worm who just moved into a new neighborhood. About a tiger who doesn’t want to go to sleep and got lost in the woods.

I admit, I used to have second thoughts about TV and books. That watching too many TV is not harmful as long as I am there with him, and after all we are watching children-dedicated cartoons, but I never realize how powerful a regular “Bedtime Story” is, until I took him to playschool trial class last week. My son, who (I thought) is withdrawn and shy, was considered “highly communicative” by the school tutors.

He also mastered extensive amount of vocabularies which makes his language ability higher than other kids at the same age.

I guess all the funny voices and the so called “grown-up-alike” conversations I have with him prove to have some results.


But this doesn’t mean that we hate our TV now, on the contrary, we love it even more (especially The Big Bang Theory, my personal favorite, among others), -although- we do try to limit the time we’re being attached to it. And replace it with doing something else instead. Reading books, playing bicycle outside, making a mess in the living room with play-dough and crayons, water-color, and scissor practices, are just some cheap (and yet so much fun) alternatives that we enjoy so far!

After two weeks of sneaking out to our bedroom in the middle of the night, my 2.8 year old Bintang is now finally sleeping on his own bedroom until morning! But hey, he also decides that he will not go to sleep until I tell him stories from -at least- 3 or 4 books.

So I read to him. In between yawning, and my funny voices..

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Picture credits : Digital Journey


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Now that I have officially moved to a new home, my mother in law, who have a high blood pressure, came to visit us. Her tension is contagious, it spreads to me, my son, and even to my nephews. Pretty soon we were all exhausted listening to her telling us NOT to do this, that, asking us unimportant questions of insecurity, and the only moment when we can laugh is when she’s taking a bath.

Not only that, I had this scary dream the first night I slept in my new bedroom. My mood has been pretty low, awful, due to PMS, lack of money, and because we decide to put the TV in the family room instead of the bed room, I can no longer watch my favorite channels while sleeping and enjoying the cold breeze of air conditioner. I have to watch TV in the living room, without air conditioner, without a bed, and with my mother in law sitting beside me asking me what time will I go to sleep because she wanted to watch the sinetron “Binar Bening Berlian.”

At moments when I want to relax, she’s cleaning the house, washed the dirty plates and looked pretty busy in the kitchen. I began to think she had OCD, but it’s rude isn’t it? But if not OCD then what the hell was that?

So I’ve been staying in my new home for a week now. But I haven’t been able to enjoy it a lot, mainly because the TV is NOT where it used to be. Trying to look at the positive side of it, at least I don’t have to watch Lea Michele in 2012 Golden Globe wearing this weird dress.

great dress, but not for you, and not for the globe.. (image from mirror.co.uk)

Oh, I wonder how my mother in law would react seeing this dress. I think she will love it.

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We all know the universal law of parenting, that says: “how we raise our kids will have a tremendous effect on the kind of adults they grow up to be.” But parenting is not an easy task, although it’s neither rocket science, all you need is 90% love and 10% patience.

Last night, I watched this amazing show “Extraordinary People” on BBC Knowledge. It’s about kids, parents, teenagers, who lived with physical disabilities, but were blessed with an extraordinary will, to fight, even stronger than normal people. As I watched the show, I felt such a great humiliation towards myself. Because I, as a normal person, haven’t been grateful for the life I have, and for not having enough patience (sometimes) when dealing my normal son. I watched those moms with disabled children, and they all looked very beautiful, not because of the make-up or cosmetics, but because of their beautiful heart.

For me, as a normal person, who have a normal kids, I sometimes fell into the hole of mompetition where everyone is bragging about their kids’ superior ability and insult other moms’ parenting decisions which are different than most of us. I regret it so much, and now I am certain that there’s nothing more waste-of-time than taking part in that stupid game.

Good parents struggle to prepare their kids for a tough, competitive world, instead of prematurely telling them (and telling everyone else), “You’re all winners.” ~ Bryan Caplan

One thing I learned from the show, is that all those kids are very lucky. They may have physical or mental disabilities, and may have an uncertain future ahead of them, but they have such a loving and supportive parents. They are very blessed for being surrounded by brothers, sisters, moms, dads, grandparents, uncles or aunties who can love them the way they are. Not all kids can enjoy those privileges, especially normal kids whose parents are highly ambitious, perfectionists and never praise or consider their children have done well and deserve an unconditional love.

If parents with disabled kids can give their children so much unconditional love and patience, then it should be a shame for us, parents with normal kids, to not being able to do the same. Let’s love our children the way they are.

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Glee, Not Geek

When I first watched Glee, I fell in love instantly. It was so full of inspiration, funny, and fresh, especially after your TV has been hijacked by so many reality series, one after another. Also at first, I never have any particular hatred towards Kurt Hummel (the gay character, played brilliantly by actor Chris Colfer), until, there was Blaine. His gay partner. Then I began to have doubts on whether this series is suitable for teens. I’m not against gay or whatever, but I’m not crazy about it either. This is one problem that I left myself undecided on how to respond.

It’s even more terrifying than The Walking Dead, and even more depressing compared to Grey’s Anatomy. Since I myself had been the kind of person who grew up by being heavily influenced by television, I have this huge fear of Glee, for have spreading the wrong message to teenagers all around the world. In my narrow-minded opinion, of course.

I use to have goosebumps and couldn’t get enough of Glee’s videos such as Imagine, One, or Marry You. I thought of those episodes as highly inspiring. But it’s a sad, sad, thing they can’t keep it that way. This video below proved their identity loss.

It even gave me a different kind of goosebumps. I felt sick watching Blaine dancing. I didn’t see the nerdy, clumsy, Rachel, anymore, since Glee has made her a very popular girl on the red carpet. I just feel that she’s too pretty to be Rachel now. In fact, no one in Glee is a geek anymore!!

It’s no longer a TV series that I’m going to wait anxiously for, and I feel sad for teenagers today for not having a great idol that they can look up to. Back in the 90s when I was growing up, we use to have so many great music and it was very diverse, from Mc Hammer to Metallica, from Whitney Houston to Nirvana. But today, there are only a few with solid characters and identity.

So instead of watching Glee, and learned nothing about life, we might as well simplify our lives and enjoy music like we used to, by jumping around the house and banged our heads. With these 8 crazy people that just celebrated their 10th anniversary. They’re adorable aren’t they? It’s hard not to fall in love with them.

I know I did.

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Glee, Popularity Without Identity

I simply thought that anyone with a strong identity will not care about what other people say. I thought that they will never feel threatened by others. But I guess I was wrong. Not only on serious issues like culture or religion, but also for the award winning television series: Glee.


I’m a big fan of Glee. I always found the series to be inspiring. My favorite episode in the first season is “Hairography” with Lennon’s Imagine which they covered in a collaboration with disabled students. There was also the “Laryngitis” episode, where Rachel sings U2’s “One” with Sean, a paralyzed ex-football-player who taught her there’s more to life, than just being popular singer.

That’s why I couldn’t wait for their second season, where more inspiring stories will be brought by the amazing cast and characters. But then, something went wrong with Glee, who seem to lost their identity. They began to cover new pop songs from the current Top 40 chart that are, not particularly special. I almost lost my mind when Rachel sings Katy Perry’s Firework in the “Silly Love Songs” episode about Valentine’s Day. The story, the scene, and the song does not match at all!

This is the problem with identity.

If a big commercial series such as Glee can lost it, then what about us, normal people who are constantly influenced by the mainstream culture? Based on the Glee case, their decision to switch identity has caused them to lose at least one of their loyal fan: Me. And who knows how many other fans think the way I do.

And that’s what you get when you are focusing so much on trying to be like the rest of the world. Our perceptions towards the world is different one another, and it made us think differently from others. When you become too similar to others, you have lost your unique traits that has made people love you.

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