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You are nobody until you create something.

Mark Zuckerberg was nobody until he created Facebook. Billie Joe Armstrong was just a confused teenager until he and his fellow mates of Green Day created those beautiful, inspiring songs that rock the world until today. Steven Spielberg and his sci-fi madness would never have succeeded for the last five decades if he didn’t create Close Encounters of the Third Kind on 1977. There will be no Avatar without The Terminator (or Titanic), and Stefani Germanotta will never make our jaw dropped due to her mind-blowing outfits, if she didn’t decide to create, well, who else.. Lady Gaga!

Kurt Cobain, grunge, and Nirvana, is like Einstein to the theory of relativity. Simon Cowell, talent shows, and American Idol is like Adolf Hitler and the Nazi era.

So, is it wrong for me to conclude that the ability to create has been implanted on our DNAs by The Great Creator since the day we were born?

And yet there seems to be something wrong with the way we were nurtured, raised, and taught, because often the fear of failure took over and dominates our mind. It stopped us from enjoying the process of creativity. We were raised to be the smartest kid in school, to have high grades, to graduate on time, to finally settle with a family and have a decent job. Passion is not an important thing to consider, that’s why innovators are treated as rare creatures which are extremely valuable, because they’re very hard to be found anywhere.

It’s every people’s right to choose a “safe” destiny, but will it make us ready for the upcoming 21st century? All the richest people in the world today are making money from being innovators, and here we are still underestimating the power to create. The reason, for most of the time, is fear of failure. In a culture where everyone is being achievement/end-result-oriented instead of process-oriented, it’s very hard for us to keep on going and ignore the negativity from other people mocking our “mediocre” result.

I was watching Invictus last night, and there’s a scene where Nelson Mandela gave an inspiring note to Francois Pienaar right before the South African rugby team is supposed to fight against the New Zealand “All Blacks.” He took a couple of lines from a poem by William Ernest Henly, about how a person should have full control over his own destiny.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul..

I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul. Don’t you just love that phrase so much? Or did you find it like a slap in the face for being such a chicken and surrender to your own fears? As the masters of our own fate, the decision to create victory or to listen to other people’s negativity, has and will always be upon our own hands. So create, create, and keep on creating. From small, personal inventions to major breakthrough.

Everything big is a result of what was once small, but were made by people who dare to think big.

Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Kurt Cobain, all of them started their little steps on this world by doing small projects at their own garage. It doesn’t matter whether you created popsicle, paper-towels, or even the fastest planes on the planet, you’ve create something. Nobody ever imagined that the internet (as one of the greatest invention in the world) would be an inevitable necessity for modern human beings, and I can’t imagine what this world would be like today without having the internet as part of our daily lives. No, I’m not addicted, but it sure has helped us a lot, right? You won’t even be reading this boring post by me if it wasn’t for the internet.

Create anything, a story, a song, a poetry, a blog. You can be the next Dewi Lestari, and you can be the next Oprah Winfrey. And since we are now in the mood to create something, why don’t you guys start by helping me think of the best title for this piece that you’re currently reading right now?

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Lessons From The Movie: “The Kids Are Alright”

Nic & Jules on "The Kids Are Alright"

Homosexuality issues are always interesting and at the same time provocative. Nic and Jules are two women who fell in love with each other, they got married, and they’re both using the same sperm donor to conceive Joni (Nic’s daughter) and Laser (Jules’ son).

One day, Laser and Joni are trying to discover their biological father (the sperm donor), and it triggered the family’s problems. Conflicts began to rise. But as the movie reached its ending, we will find the ‘hidden’ message behind it, that “a family who was built by a lesbian couple is still a ‘normal’ family, where your children are also living a normal life.”

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The movie proved that the definition of “marriage” has shifted. Marriage is no longer something that can only be done by a man and a woman. It belongs to everyone. More men are marrying another men, and more women are creating a family with another women.

It’s a fact. But it’s not what our kids will learn in school. At least in my country, where schools are following basic rules where reproduction and marriage is a process that must involve a man and a woman, having an intercourse and so on. It is also contrary to the subject of religion, which Indonesian kids are also learning in school.

So how do we explain the existence of homosexual couples to our children?

I don’t have an exact formula for that. Although I must admit that the thoughts of having a son who grow up to be gay, is not something that will make me happy. But I also don’t want him to grow up hating and cursing gay people. I know some parents are using religion as their ultimate weapon, but this country’s condition often misused it and made people trapped in some sort of ‘unreasonable fear’ with hatred towards diversity.

The only thing I have in my mind is to provide as many information as possible. Because knowledge is the key that will help him decide what’s best for him.

For this purpose, I must continuously maintain a high amount of communication. I’d rather have my son asking me silly, stupid, sensitive, and eventually confusing questions, than to have him asking someone else and receive a false explanation.

We all have our own way to educate and raise our children. But, Nic and Jules’ conflicts are happening to all of us. Their decision to hide Paul (the sperm donor, Laser and Joni’s biological father) from their children is not a wise decision. Families shouldn’t hide anything because families must not keep any secrets. If we want our children to see us as a source of knowledge, then no matter how awkward and abnormal or embarrassing the fact maybe, they deserved to know from A to Z.

The world and life is not a fairy tale, our children must prepare themselves for battle. With proper guidelines and love, hopefully they will have a solid understanding about whatever it is that’s going on around them. Thus, they will have a strong foundation to help deciding what’s best for them. We can only provide our support, but eventually we will have to learn to let them go, trust them in taking their own decisions.

But just like the other parents, I am also still learning and trying, and sometimes failing..

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