This is about one of my biggest fear in parenting. Trying to bond and provide everything from food to love and material belongings to my child, as one of the most instinctive calling, and on the other hand, trying to teach him to stand on his own feet, allowing him to make mistakes and have a taste of failure so that he can learn from it and not repeating it. Just like what this research concluded..
… This is a problem, of course, for all parents, not just affluent ones. It is a central paradox of contemporary parenting, in fact: we have an acute, almost biological impulse to provide for our children, to give them everything they want and need, to protect them from dangers and discomforts both large and small. And yet we all know — on some level, at least — that what kids need more than anything is a little hardship: some challenge, some deprivation that they can overcome, even if just to prove to themselves that they can.
As a parent, you struggle with these thorny questions every day, and if you make the right call even half the time, you’re lucky. But it’s one thing to acknowledge this dilemma in the privacy of your own home; it’s quite another to have it addressed in public, at a school where you send your kids at great expense.
very true indeed.